Who's Swag Is It Anyway?

It's been a few days since my last blog; honestly I've had writers block. However I refuse to bombard you with mindless jibber that lacks substance. So rather than just putting something out there into the universe in order to say "I blogged today", I will wait until I have something significant to share. Ugh! This is something I have been struggling with for about a month. When I started my blog I spoke of a 365 day journey which in its self implied that I would be blogging everyday. And in the beginning I did without fail. In the beginning I was filled with a ton of emotions. I had so much bottled up inside me and so much to say, that once day was not even enough. I still have alot to say, but now the work of the journey has begun and the frequency of my blogging may not be as often. But I promise you that if you bare with the shifting that is going on in my life, you will not be disappointed. I will continue to be as raw and honest with you as I have been in the past. Giving you all of me as I search for the Best IN ME!

Now that I've gotten that out of the way, I want to talk about something that has been gnawing at me for about a week or so. In the beginning of the year I was confronted with a situation that made me question my own sense of style and my overall look. As you know initially the entire permise of my journey was built around discovering my inner diva, or finding my SWAG! Because of that, I spend alot of time WATCHING...or perhaps you can call it RESEARCHING. I pay close attention to the style and Swagger of not only the women in my circle but also to everyday people I encounter on the street. My findings: Swag is all about individual style. You can be a quirky, eclectic misfit or a completely conservative, classic business woman and still have swagger. By definition Swagger is confidence, an air of self assurance. It is the belief in one's self and the ability to project that confidence into the atmosphere. Your swagger is your stance, your posture and your  presence. It is the ultimate statement of Who you are.
Your style is what you make of it and how well you pull it off. You can not pull off a great look that is not yours. If your feet are on fire because you're wearing heels or you're constantly tugging and pulling because you have been talked into wearing something short and revealing; you are not going to feel confident. Which means you have defeated yourself off the rip by robbing your own swag.
Example: Two equally beautiful women can enter a room wearing identical looks from head to toe, but if one woman lacks the confidence needed to carry the look off, then it really doesn't matter what she's wearing; no one's going to notice her.
So you can not MOCK someone else's swagger. What you must do is find and master your own. First by building your confidence and establishing a clear conscience of Who you are and what you want the world to see when they look at you, what they hear when they speak to you and what they remember when you walk away.