Obligations

We are so many things to so many people that sometimes we forget to be ourselves. We spend so much time running through life trying to meet the expectations and obligations set for us by others that we lose ourselves and become titles... dedicated moms, devoted wifes, disciplined church members and indispensable employees. So many titles that the Tracys, Monicas and Nicoles get lost. We put so much effort into upholding an "Image" that eventually when we look in the mirror we don't recognize the image staring back at us.
When we strip away the titles imposed upon us by others, what are we left with? Why are we so quick to define ourselves by the deeds and work we do for others? Instead shouldn't the definition of who we are be the one that clearly affirms the Destiny we've set for ourselves? Should we not be so bold as to decide who we want to be? Why is saying "No" and doing for self so quickly associated with being selfish and therefore wrong?
I am so sick and tired of feeling guilty for not wanting to be everything to everybody. And even more tired of people trying to pimp my talents and my time. It seems no matter what, there will always be those that are more than willing to leech off the skills and efforts of others.

A great part of my journey is taking care of Self; putting me first. I will no longer feel obligated to comply, conform or commit myself to anything but Me and My God. Everyone and everything else is secondary and therefore must wait until I have the time and energy to give to their situation. I will no longer carry the weight of others, especially those who are not willing to carry mine. The weight of the world will no longer be placed upon my shoulders. I wanna be FREE! Free to be the Phabolous Woman I was Destine to BE!

This is my Emancipation Speech...